There is something extraordinary about light. A single candle makes no sound. It does not seek recognition or compete with the candles around it. Yet the moment it is lit, darkness quietly begins to retreat.

Perhaps that is why some of the most remarkable women are like candles. Not because they are perfect. Not because life has always been easy. But because, wherever they go, they bring a little more light.

Women’s Month offers us an opportunity to celebrate remarkable women. We honour their achievements, their courage, and the many ways they have shaped our world. Yet perhaps this month also invites us to pause and ask a quieter, more personal question:

Who am I becoming?

Some women change the world from a stage. Others change it around a dinner table. Some lead nations; others quietly lead their families. Some inspire thousands; others transform one life at a time. Every one of these contributions matters.

We live in a world that celebrates achievement—degrees, promotions, awards and success. These milestones deserve recognition because they reflect dedication, perseverance and hard work. Yet they tell only part of our story.

Long after people forget what we accomplished, they remember who we were.

Were we patient? Did we bring peace into the lives of others? Did we live with integrity? Did we show compassion? Did we have the courage to stand up for what was right?

These are qualities that no mirror can reflect, no photograph can capture and no trophy can measure.

Deep within each of us lie qualities such as peace, love, compassion and wisdom. They are part of our original nature. Life does not give us these qualities; it gives us opportunities to express them. When we reconnect with them, we do not become someone new—we simply allow our authentic selves to shine.

This is where the true beauty of a woman begins. Not in the latest fashion. Not in flawless appearance. Not in the number of people who admire her. True beauty is revealed in the character she cultivates and the values she lives each day.

The world often encourages us to look outward—to compare, compete and constantly prove ourselves. We spend so much time asking, Am I enough? that we rarely stop to ask a far more meaningful question:

Am I living from the best within me?

The greatest journey is not across countries or continents. It is the journey within.

When we create moments of stillness, we begin to hear a quieter voice beneath the noise of everyday life. It reminds us that our worth has never depended on applause, perfection or the opinions of others. It reminds us that peace is not something we have to chase; it is something we can choose. Love becomes more than an emotion—it becomes the way we live. Strength is no longer measured by carrying every burden alone, but by remaining true to our values even when life becomes difficult.

Perhaps this is the quiet power women have always carried: the power to create harmony where there is conflict; to offer hope where there is discouragement; to remain calm when everything around them feels uncertain; to respond with dignity when anger seems easier; and to inspire without needing applause.

Like a candle, they simply shine.

And the beautiful thing about light is this: it loses nothing by lighting another candle.

When a woman encourages another woman instead of comparing herself to her, her own light does not diminish. When she offers kindness instead of criticism, understanding instead of judgement, generosity instead of competition, her light grows brighter.

Imagine how different our homes would feel if we carried a little more patience into them. How different our communities would become if kindness mattered more than criticism. How different our world would be if we measured success not only by what we achieve, but by the peace we create and the hope we leave behind.

Real change rarely begins with grand gestures. It begins quietly—with one thought, one choice and one act of kindness.

This Women’s Month, let us celebrate not only the remarkable women whose names appear in history books, but also the countless women whose quiet strength has shaped families, friendships and communities without ever seeking recognition.

And while we honour the women around us, let us not forget to honour ourselves. Take a moment to recognise the light you already carry.

Protect it.

Nurture it.

Share it generously.

Because the brightest light is not the one that seeks attention. It is the one that quietly helps others find their way.

This August, may we celebrate not only what women achieve, but who they choose to become.

For when a woman lives with peace in her heart, kindness in her words and courage in her actions, she leaves behind something far more lasting than success.

She leaves behind light.

And there is no greater beauty than a light that helps others discover their own.

When I think of Nelson Mandela, I am reminded of his unwavering commitment to truth, justice, human dignity, and the courage to stand firm in these principles, even in the face of immense adversity.

“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.” — Nelson Mandela

These words remind us that true freedom is inseparable from our shared humanity. Yet fear and insecurity often lead us to blame or reject those we perceive as different. In doing so, we diminish not only others but ourselves, eroding our own humanity and our capacity to experience genuine peace and fulfilment.

If our society is to heal, we must rekindle the spiritual values that nurture kindness, compassion, and respect for life. Communities become peaceful when individuals become peaceful. Lasting change begins within.

Creating space for self-reflection and meditation allows us to become aware of the quality of our thoughts, attitudes and actions. As our awareness grows, so does our ability to choose differently. When we consciously place ourselves in another person’s shoes, judgment begins to give way to compassion. It is here that conscience awakens, relationships are restored, and inner freedom begins to emerge.

From a spiritual perspective, the labels we use to define ourselves—race, nationality, ethnicity, culture, or social status—are secondary identities. They may shape our experiences, but they do not define our essence. Because these identities are constantly changing, relying on them alone leaves us feelingvulnerable and insecure.

Beneath these external identities lies our deepest truth: the soul. The soul is the conscious self—the thinker, the feeler, the creator of thoughts and memories, and the seat of conscience. As spiritual beings, we possess an inner nature of peace, love and wisdom. Reconnecting with this awareness provides a profound sense of stability and belonging that no external circumstance can take away.

When we recognise ourselves as souls, we naturally begin to see others in the same light. Our relationships become more than social interactions; they become exchanges of spiritual energy. The law of karma reminds us that whatever we give—whether kindness, respect, anger or resentment—eventually returns to us. Seeing ourselves and others through the lens of the soul affirms our shared humanity. It is this understanding that gives deeper meaning to the greeting Namaste —”I honour the divine within you.”

When we live with this level of respect for one another, our conscience is truly free. This is perhaps the greatest freedom of all. Living against our conscience creates inner conflict that often manifests as stress, intolerance and violence. The suffering we witness in society is a reminder that our deepest need is not simply social or political change, but inner transformation.

Peace cannot be built upon another person’s pain. Aggression ultimately breeds fear, even in the heart of the aggressor. True peace arises when we recognise that our well-being is inseparable from the well-being of others.

As we commemorate Nelson Mandela International Day, may we honour Madiba not only through acts of service but through the way we think, speak and live each day. Let us embrace the spirit of
Namaste —recognising the sacred dignity within ourselves and within every person we meet. In doing so, we continue the legacy of a man who showed the world that the greatest freedom begins within.

Author:  Pratiba Daya

Over decades of rapid change in lifestyles the family structure has undergone changes which challenges us to sustain strong family bonds in a modernised world.

The basis of any healthy relationship is TRUST.  When there is a lack of trust it adds to self-doubt, unmet expectations and second guessing each other.  Trust allows for an atmosphere of safety which is a healthy environment for honest, authentic conversations.  Trust removes the element of feeling judged and its in such an atmosphere that there is a feeling of mutual respect and growth. Such a level of security implies that instead of looking for a listener outside the safety net of the home, one will naturally be drawn towards the inner circle of family and reach out for help.

Very often as a family we tend to live past each other – each one absorbed in their own priorities and schedules.  Each one rushing and there not being enough time.  Often the misunderstanding is that we need a lot of time.  However its quality not quantity, its about being fully present and listening.

Like the fingers of the same hand being different, hence each one has a particular strength and weakness.  As a family each member is different and unique.  Family is about these individual personalities finding common ground in the values they share.  What enables there to be harmony in spite of the variety and the difference is the vision each one holds for the other.  Conflict usually occurs when we trying to create a single mould into which each one needs to fit in.  But when there is acceptance of the uniqueness of the other we can use the difference as a strength.  This brings harmony.  At a spiritual level it relates to seeing the other as a soul, a spiritual being who has been gifted with qualities from the Divine.  This vision instils a deep and profound respect.

Our social conditioning plays a huge role whereby each one assumes roles based on cultural influences.  Todays society in many ways challenges these traditional roles, because our current time requires both genders to contribute to both earning financially but also household chores.  Unless we adapt to these changing roles with a keen sense of appreciation of each ones contribution there can be conflict. Conflict usually occurs because of power based on the ego and the need for control.  It comes back to trust, where there is trust there is no need for ego.  Differences need to be communicated but with understanding and love.  Often there is a dance we need to learn between humility and self-respect to navigate this.

Finally the invasion of social-media and with the advent of AI, family bonds seem unimportant and something which can be avoided in comparison to the thousands of virtual friendships and array of followers lined up which makes up for all the needs of companionship. The age-old saying that man is a social animal has slowly but rapidly transformed into man is a virtual prisoner.

We crave connection, because connection is what makes us feel valued.  Virtual connections give a temporary high – however it is often just fake.  Real connections occur when we are together.  It is a very widely spoken about fact that a family that eats together and prays together stays strong together. When a family sits together for meals, firstly each one is giving a slice of their time into the joint project called “family” and as we all know that money may come and go but time once gone can never come back. Meal times are an opportunity to share the dramas of each ones day – allowing for a shared feeling of belonging.  Similarly, when we pray together, we are combining our individual energies and linking with the Supreme energy whom we refer to as God or Almighty. Such combined remembrance of God fills each one with Love, Joy, Peace, Wisdom and Purity and these positive virtues ignited in each one will fill the home with a nurturing energy which will sustain harmony and peace.

The golden rule for creating and sustaining harmony among family members respect and love without any judgement or pre-conceived notions. Spend quality time with each other enriching each one. Harmony stems from a deep, unconditional affection. This love is the first type of love a person experiences and is essential for emotional well-being, providing a foundation of security and support.

1.5 cups warm water
3 tbsp sugar
3 tbsp oil
1 pkt instant yeast
4 cups flour (faryali flour Gluten-free)
2 tsp salt
A handful of sundried tomatoes
A handful of olives
Nutritional yeast flakes

Method :

Take the warm water and add yeast to it. Let it sit for a few mins till it’s frothy. Then add sugar, oil, salt, and flour. Knead the dough well.

Once risen roll out lightly with your hands, and sprinkle the sundried tomatoes, olives

And nutritional yeast flakes. Roll like a Swiss roll and then flatten it again for the second rise.

After about 30 mins bake in the oven at 180 degrees for about 40 mins till it is fully baked. ( Tip if you knock it, it will create a hollow sound.  This will tell you that it is fully baked inside.)

1 tablespoon jeera seeds
About 8 curry leaves
1 green chilly seeded and chopped
3 tablespoons ghee or oil
2 carrots grated
2 tomatoes finely chopped
2 small potatoes cubed and boiled
½ cup raw peanuts
3 cups of (Tapioca) sago, soaked in cold water for an hour
2 tbsp lemon juice
Salt to taste
1 tbsp sugar

Method:

Take 3 tbsp ghee in a nonstick pan and saute the raw peanuts until golden brown.

Then add carrots, tomatoes, and potatoes and cook for 2 minutes

Then add cumin seeds, curry leaves, and green chili. Cook for another 2 mins.

Add salt, sugar, and lemon juice. Switch the stove odd.

Then add the soaked sago, after draining all the water out. Give it all a nice mix. ( Tip: soak the sago for 3-4 hours in cold water, enough water just to cover it.)

Garnish with coriander and serve with yogurt (Optional)

200gr red lentils
120 ml water
½ tsp salt
2 tbsp oil
1 heaped tsp baking powder
2 tbsp psylium husk (30ml)
2 tbsp chia seeds
1 tbsp sesame seeds 

Method:

Soak lentils in water overnight (or for 4 hours)

Drain and add to blender plus 120 ml water. Blend well.

Add all other ingredients and mix thoroughly.

Leave to stand for 30mins.

Form into a long loaf and place onto baking paper.

Sprinkle seeds of choice on top.

Bake at 200 C for 50 mins.

Leave to cool completely before slicing

3 Bunches of curly kale
1 cup soaked cashew nuts
1 cup red bell pepper
4 tablespoons olive oil
Lemon juice
1 tablespoon fresh thyme
1/2cup water

Seasoning:

2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoon hing
1 teaspoon cayenne pepper

Method:

Wash the kale thoroughly.

Cut out the veins.

Marinate in the sauce.

Place in oven at high temperature and then switch off the oven and let it crisp dry in the oven.

Dal soaking time: 5 hours

Preparation time : 10 mins

Cooking time: 1 hour

Yield: Enough for 4 -6 persons

Ingredients:

1 cup (250 ml) green split peas

1 teaspoon (5ml) minced fresh ginger

1 small hot green chili, seeded and minced

6 cups (1.5ltrs) water

1 teaspoon (5ml) turmeric

2 teaspoons (10ml) ground coriander

1 small bunch of spinach, washed thoroughly and roughly chopped

1 & ½ teaspoons (7ml) salt

1 cup (250 ml) coconut milk

2 tablespoons (40 ml) ghee or oil

1 & 1/4^th teaspoons (1ml) yellow asafoetida powder

1 teaspoon (5ml) fresh lemon or lemon juice

Method :

• Wash and drain the split peas. Soak in cold water for 5 hours.
• Boil the ginger, chili, water, turmeric, coriander, and split peas in a heavy 3 liter/quart saucepan over moderate heat. Simmer for about 50 minutes or until dal is soft. Stir occasionally.
• Add the chopped spinach to the dal. When the spinach is soft and the dal is smooth, add the salt and coconut milk and return the soup to a simmer.
• Prepare the final zesty seasoning as follows: Heat the ghee or oil in a small pan. Saute the asafoetida momentarily. Add the spices to the soup, mix well, and allow the spices to blend for a few minutes. Add fresh lemon or lime juice. Serve hot.

Raja Yoga for breath

The word Yoga is derived from the Sanskrit root ‘Yuj’ meaning to join or to yoke or to unite.  As per yogic scriptures the practice of Yoga leads to the union of individual consciousness with that of Universal Consciousness, indicating a perfect harmony between the mind and body, between man and nature.

We focus on exercises as yoga, however, it is the union or rather harmonizing of matter which is body and spirit or consciousness.  In many ways humanity, with the influence of materialism, has become disconnected from the inner self, the spiritual self. This disconnect has resulted in internal conflicts and discontentment in everyday life, which gets exasperated by the continuous change in our external world.  That is one reason why we are finding how this discord and conflict is being revealed through our bodies.

We all know that mental stress leads to lowering of our immunity and a varied number of other psychosomatic illnesses. That is why yoga is so relevant in today’s day and age – we need to realign and harmonize internally first so that we can then harmonize with our world.

The various asanas of yoga are helpful to relax and center oneself; however, an internal alignment can only truly occur when we understand and give time to reconnect with our spiritual nature.  This is the alignment of our mind and intellect with our innate qualities or inherent divinity of the soul – the attributes of peace, love, bliss, purity and power.  This is Raja Yoga – to realign with this inherent self.

So, it begins by firstly recognizing and understanding that the true nature of the self is non-physical.  I am consciousness, I am soul, and the soul is eternal.  Perhaps we have this as an understanding but we have to translate this into an experience and further into an attitude so that I view my world and I respond to my world from this premise that I am a soul.  When I come from soul consciousness, I come from the awareness of being eternal, of being energy, of being divinely created – so it results in me creating a capacity within me or attitude within me to respond from a place of love and peace.  Why?  When I truly connect with myself as being eternal I am secure and I free myself from the most basic fear, the fear of death.  This internal security, this internal peace, this internal attitude of focusing on what is beyond the stream of constant change emerges two powerful personality traits. Firstly, I build the capacity to be stable emotionally and mentally irrespective of the change around me.  Secondly, it helps to engage with others with the attitude and understanding that the innate nature of every soul is goodness.  So a spirit of love and respect for all emerges, not only for people but also for nature and all creatures. When love emerges then love creates a feeling of connection and harmony.

How to begin this practice?

Just as when we are unwell we end up breathing in a shallow way, sometimes gasping for breath – in the same way, a mind that is too busy and has far too many thoughts is a soul gasping for inner peace. How do we create silence in the mind?  Silence is not emptiness, but silence is a mind resting on a pure thought.

Extract: the Man who loved angels by Anthony Strano.

A second is the unit of time, just as a thought is the basic unit of consciousness.  A body has many cells and so do time and consciousness.  Whether we measure time in terms of eternity, ages, cycles centuries years…hours minutes, the basic unit or cell is a second.  We may measure consciousness in terms of awareness, attitudes, beliefs, feelings, behaviour, aliveness, responses but the basic unit or cell is always a thought.  If these basic units of time and thoughts are weak then the whole of time and consciousness suffers.  So how do we create inner silence, we begin by a practice of taking one thought in one second and make them work together.

Take one second to think one thought

Slowly and faithfully think: I am

Add another second and another thought: a soul

Add another second or two and think: I am peace

Add another second or two and think: I am a being of peace.

Repeat these thoughts gently to yourself, paying special attention to them.  There is no need to rush, no need for second thoughts or ideas going anywhere else.  Just focus on the original self.

Practising this daily several times, we teach ourselves to think the right thoughts at the right time.  We free ourselves from the internal chatter and begin to feel more, listen more and be more.  As we reconnect with ourselves we harmonize mind with breath, spirit with body, consciousness with nature.  When I am aligned internally I can easily harmonize and connect with others and nature, but moreover, I open myself to connect with the Divine Source, with God.  This allows me to draw spiritual power and truly experience the state of Yoga – which is Union with the Highest Source.  The experience of this highest love then flows through my being, my relationships, my work and I become an instrument to create a better world.

Author: Pratiba Daya